Rape, sexual assault or the attempt to do either is a violent crime against n individual. The rapist can be anyone - a neighbor, a date, a friend, a relative, or a stranger.
If someone you know forces you to have sexual intercourse or other sexual contact against your will it is called acquaintance rape. When this happens in a date situation, it is also called date rape.
No one has the right to pressure or force you to have sex even if:
- Your dinner or night out has been paid for
- You have had sex before with this person
- You flirt with the person
- You agree to have sex and then change your mind
You have the right to say no to anyone who tries to touch you in a way which makes you uncomfortable. If the person will not leave you alone, try to get away as soon as possible. If you are raped, it is not you fault. You are the victim, not the criminal.
If you are raped or sexually assaulted:
- Get to a safe place
- Call your parents or someone you trust, or call the rape crisis service
- Do not shower, bathe, douche, wash your hands, brush your teeth, use the toilet, change your clothes or eat or drink anything. As hard as it may be to not clean up, you may destroy important evidence if you do.
- Get medical attention as son as possible to determine whether or not you have internal injuries. Also, there may be a need for follow-up medical care in case of a sexually transmitted disease or pregnancy. The best place to go to is the hospital emergency room since the staff has been trained to help you.
- Try to remember or write down where this happened, when, what the person looked like and clothing s/he wore. This information will help you be prepared if you decide to talk to the police.
The doctor can help you involve the police if you want. Contacting the police may alleviate your fears and provide you with a sense of security. The decision to prosecute a criminal matter is between you, your parents or legal guardian, the police and the District Attorney's office.
The victim of an assault needs to have people to talk with about feelings, people who will listen for as long as it takes. Call the following anytime, day or night. Don't be afraid to call for help.
The following organizations will provide information and/or assistance (click on the agency's name for more information):
(800)310-1160 or TDD: (585)275-2700
Lifeline provides a variety of support and referral services including access to other agencies.
Rape and Abuse Crisis Service of the Finger Lakes
(315)781-1093 or Hotline: (800)247-7273
The agency provides a 24-hour hotline, crisis intervention, counseling, medical and legal assistance for people involved in rape or abuse.
Rushville Health Center
Provides medical, dental, outreach and rape and abuse crisis services to Ontario, Wayne and Yates counties.